A Catholic Examination of Conscience

35-44 Widowed Father with Children Under 18

In preparing for confession, please read through the examination questions and explanations thoughtfully, reflecting on each point and honestly identifying where you've fallen short of God's call in your life. You may click and remove any irrelevant ones as you proceed. Take mental note of any serious sins that require confession, focusing on being thorough but not scrupulous, then use these insights to make a complete and sincere confession to your priest.

Updated: December 3, 2024

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Disobedience

Was I disobedient to those in authority, such as my parents or guardians?

As per the fourth commandment, it's a child's duty to respond to parental love, wisdom, and respect with obedience.

Was I disobedient to my parents in any situation where they asked me to prioritize their needs over my own desires?

As per the fourth commandment, it's a child's duty to respond to parental love, wisdom, and respect with obedience.

Did I deliberately choose to skip observing fasting days, knowing it was required?

This is considered sinful because deliberately disregarding prescribed days of fasting represents disobedience to Church authority and fails to honor our spiritual obligation to practice self-denial and penance during sacred times.

Did you mock the Church? Consider the possibility that your words might have wounded or ridiculed those within the community of faith, intentionally or unintentionally. Reflect on whether your speech was respectful and considerate towards others' views and feelings within the Church.

Mocking the church shows contempt for Christ's established institution on earth, disrespects the Body of Christ, and undermines the Church's divine authority as guided by the Holy Spirit.

Did I use my words to disrespect the Church?

Mocking the church shows contempt for Christ's established institution on earth, disrespects the Body of Christ, and undermines the Church's divine authority as guided by the Holy Spirit.

Condoning

Did I tell other Catholics that it was okay to miss Mass without attending with them?

One of the spiritual works of mercy is to admonish the sinner and to correct them out of love and charity instead of condoning sin.

Have I permitted my child to suffer needlessly by not providing them with guidance or support when they were struggling?

Permitting a child to continue in error by avoiding difficult conversations is sinful because it neglects our God-given parental duty to guide and form our children's moral and spiritual development, placing our own comfort above their eternal wellbeing.

Did I allow my pursuit of what is considered "normal" or "expected" by society, such as family structure, personal success, or community involvement, to influence my values and decisions in a way that compromises my own beliefs?

Prioritizing human approval over standing firm in God's truth demonstrates both moral cowardice and places human opinion above divine authority.

Have I permitted my child to be exposed to bad influences?

Parents have to protect their children's well-being, guarding them from harmful elements that could damage their faith or lead them into sin.

Did I permit my child to be exposed to sinful influences?

Parents have to protect their children's well-being, guarding them from harmful elements that could damage their faith or lead them into sin.

Did I give my approval to another Catholic for marrying outside the Church?

Marriage is a sacrament within the Catholic faith and thus giving approval and not admonishing the action gives scandal by condoning.

Did I give approval to another Catholic through my words that they should marry outside of the Church?

Marriage is a sacrament within the Catholic faith and thus giving approval and not admonishing the action gives scandal by condoning.

Did I condone another Catholic to marry outside the Church, potentially giving scandal to others by my silence or lack of guidance?

Marriage is a sacrament within the Catholic faith and thus giving approval and not admonishing the action gives scandal by condoning.

Did I ever endorse or justify abortion?

It's sinful to condone sinful behavior and fail to admonish such sinful actions, especially a grave act that would take a life.

Did you publicly endorse or justify abortion or euthanasia in any conversation, media platform, or public forum?

It's sinful to condone sinful behavior and fail to admonish such sinful actions, especially a grave act that would take a life.

Blasphemy

Did I forgo a valid Catholic marriage by engaging in relationships that did not respect the sacramentality of marriage?

For Catholics, marriage is sacramental and needs to occur in the Church or receive a dispensation if either people are not Catholic.

Have I used God's holy name in a careless manner, swearing to Him without proper reverence?

This sin violates the Second Commandment by treating God's holy name with disrespect rather than reverence.

Did I receive Holy Communion while being aware that my heart was divided between my faith and my worldly concerns?

This mortal sin is a form of sacrilege and profanes the real presence of Christ and shows grave disrespect for the sacrament by receiving unworthily.

Have I received Holy Communion while intentionally choosing to ignore my conscience, knowing that I am not in a state of grace?

This mortal sin is a form of sacrilege and profanes the real presence of Christ and shows grave disrespect for the sacrament by receiving unworthily.

Have you ever used words to speak about God in a way that was contrary to His nature, and thus committed blasphemy?

This is sinful as using God's holy name carelessly or disrespectfully shows contempt for His divine nature and fails to give proper honor to the sacred name of God, which should only be used in prayer, worship, or respectful discussion.

Have you ever spoken words that were a sin against God?

This is sinful as using God's holy name carelessly or disrespectfully shows contempt for His divine nature and fails to give proper honor to the sacred name of God, which should only be used in prayer, worship, or respectful discussion.

Uncharity

Do I look down upon others based on their background, lifestyle, or personal choices?

This sin dehumanizes people on the margins when we are called to love each other as a child of God as Jesus loved us.

Do I look down upon others based on their perceived failures or shortcomings?

This sin dehumanizes people on the margins when we are called to love each other as a child of God as Jesus loved us.

Do I look down upon others based on their family structure, personal choices, or community involvement?

This sin dehumanizes people on the margins when we are called to love each other as a child of God as Jesus loved us.

When you prioritize interests over others' emotional needs, do you deliberately think about how your actions might hurt or disappoint them?

This is considered sinful because excessive self-focus and selfishness violates Christ's command to love our neighbors as ourselves and contradicts the Christian call to practice charity, compassion, and self-sacrifice for others.

Do you prioritize your own interests over thinking charitably about others, even when they come to mind?

This is considered sinful because excessive self-focus and selfishness violates Christ's command to love our neighbors as ourselves and contradicts the Christian call to practice charity, compassion, and self-sacrifice for others.

Did you lose your patience in interactions with those closest to you, such as family members?

Losing patience with others fails to reflect God's infinite patience with us and violates Christ's command to love our neighbor, instead allowing anger and frustration to override charity and kindness.

Did I permit someone to be treated unfairly?

This sin violates the principles of justice, charity, and our moral obligation to defend human dignity and protect our neighbors from harm when we have the ability to intervene.

Have I shown compassion through practical deeds to those in need, especially during difficult times?

Failing to help those in need violates Christ's direct command to love our neighbor and care for the poor, effectively refusing to recognize Jesus Himself in the suffering of others.

Have I shown practical assistance to those in my community who are struggling with basic needs, such as food or housing?

Failing to help those in need violates Christ's direct command to love our neighbor and care for the poor, effectively refusing to recognize Jesus Himself in the suffering of others.

Lukewarmness

Am I unwilling to deepen my understanding of my faith?

Lukewarmness in spiritual growth is sinful because one essentially chooses comfort and mediocrity over the transformative love God offers, which Jesus specifically warned against in Revelation 3:16.

Am I careless in pursuing my faith, merely going through the motions without true devotion?

Lukewarmness in spiritual growth is sinful because one essentially chooses comfort and mediocrity over the transformative love God offers, which Jesus specifically warned against in Revelation 3:16.

Callousness

Did I fail to help someone in genuine need when they reached out for assistance?

As part of the corporal works of mercy, we're called to be merciful and compassionate to those in distress.

Sloth

Did I neglect those who were in need of my assistance?

Neglecting the sick violates Jesus's direct command to care for the ill as if they were Christ himself.

Have I neglected to cultivate my child's faith, leading them away from their spiritual foundation?

Parents have the duty to be the first teachers of faith to their children, as promised in their child's baptism and outlined in Church teaching as the fundamental responsibility of Christian parenthood.

Have I neglected to provide spiritual guidance to my child?

Parents have the duty to be the first teachers of faith to their children, as promised in their child's baptism and outlined in Church teaching as the fundamental responsibility of Christian parenthood.

Have I neglected to provide spiritual guidance to my child, leaving them unprepared for their faith journey?

Parents have the duty to be the first teachers of faith to their children, as promised in their child's baptism and outlined in Church teaching as the fundamental responsibility of Christian parenthood.

Do you put off doing something that you could be doing to help your family's physical fitness and overall well-being, even though it would make a positive difference in their lives?

Neglecting family duties is considered sinful because it violates both divine law and natural law, where God entrusts us with specific responsibilities to nurture, protect, and care for our family members as part of our fundamental Christian vocation.

Have you put your interests ahead of your responsibilities in maintaining physical fitness and overall well-being, leading to deeds that demonstrate sloth?

Neglecting family duties is considered sinful because it violates both divine law and natural law, where God entrusts us with specific responsibilities to nurture, protect, and care for our family members as part of our fundamental Christian vocation.

Have you put interests ahead of your personal and family responsibilities by deeds?

Neglecting family duties is considered sinful because it violates both divine law and natural law, where God entrusts us with specific responsibilities to nurture, protect, and care for our family members as part of our fundamental Christian vocation.

Did I fail to provide for my child's spiritual education by neglecting to introduce them to Catholic teachings?

Parents have a primary and sacred duty to pass on the faith to their children, as they are considered their children's first and most important religious teachers who are directly responsible for their spiritual formation and eternal salvation.

Did I fail to provide education for my child, leading them to potentially fall behind in their studies?

Parents have a primary and sacred duty to pass on the faith to their children, as they are considered their children's first and most important religious teachers who are directly responsible for their spiritual formation and eternal salvation.

Theft

Did you intentionally fail to pay debts owed to others?

Intentionally failing to pay debts is sinful because it violates both the seventh commandment against theft and the principle of justice that requires honoring our commitments to others.

Did you intentionally fail to repay debts owed to others?

Intentionally failing to pay debts is sinful because it violates both the seventh commandment against theft and the principle of justice that requires honoring our commitments to others.

Did I aid others in stealing?

While not stealing yourself, this sin still participates in breaking the seventh commandment and shows disregard for others' rightful property and dignity.

Did you assist others in stealing?

While not stealing yourself, this sin still participates in breaking the seventh commandment and shows disregard for others' rightful property and dignity.

Did I assist someone in taking something that did not belong to them?

While not stealing yourself, this sin still participates in breaking the seventh commandment and shows disregard for others' rightful property and dignity.

Did I avoid paying others a fair price in my dealings, such as buying and selling goods?

Failing to pay a fair wage or price is a sin because it violates both the seventh commandment against stealing and the principle of social justice.

Did you avoid paying others a just price for goods or services?

Failing to pay a fair wage or price is a sin because it violates both the seventh commandment against stealing and the principle of social justice.

Did I avoid paying others a fair price or wage, especially in situations where contracts or agreements were involved?

Failing to pay a fair wage or price is a sin because it violates both the seventh commandment against stealing and the principle of social justice.

Merciless

Have you prioritized your thoughts, in order to prioritize the interests of others, by being uncharitable towards them?

This is considered sinful because excessive self-focus and selfishness violates Christ's command to love our neighbors as ourselves and contradicts the Christian call to practice charity, compassion, and self-sacrifice for others.

Did you lack self-control and speak to others, including your family members and friends, in ways that were hurtful or unkind?

This sin of incontinence shows a lack of self-restraint and violates the dignity of others.

Resent

Have I become sterilized?

This is considered sinful because deliberately altering one's fertility represents an act of defiance against God and implies we know better than divine wisdom, placing our desires for control above trust in God's plan for our lives.

Did I become sterile?

This is considered sinful because deliberately altering one's fertility represents an act of defiance against God and implies we know better than divine wisdom, placing our desires for control above trust in God's plan for our lives.

Did I harbor any resentment towards those who have wronged me, my family, or myself?

Holding a grudge with enemies is sinful as it directly contradicts Christ's command to "love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."

Did you harbor any resentment in your heart towards those who have wronged you?

Holding a grudge with enemies is sinful as it directly contradicts Christ's command to "love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."

Did you harbor any resentment in your heart towards those who have wronged you, causing you to feel bitter or unforgiving?

Holding a grudge with enemies is sinful as it directly contradicts Christ's command to "love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."

Have I denied forgiveness to someone who wronged me, causing me to harbor resentment in my heart?

Refusing to forgive others is sinful because it contradicts Jesus's direct command to forgive and His example of mercy, while also blocking God's forgiveness of our own sins.

Did you, at any time, deliberately reject your Catholic faith?

This sin represents a deliberate rejection of God's revealed truth and the covenant relationship established through baptism, breaking the promise to remain faithful to Christ and His Church.

Retaliation

Do I harbor a desire for personal revenge in my thoughts?

Entertaining thoughts of revenge is sinful because it rejects Christ's teaching of forgiveness and love of enemies, choosing instead to harbor malice and a desire for personal retaliation rather than leaving justice to God.

Do I harbor a desire for personal revenge through thoughts about others?

Entertaining thoughts of revenge is sinful because it rejects Christ's teaching of forgiveness and love of enemies, choosing instead to harbor malice and a desire for personal retaliation rather than leaving justice to God.

Lust

Have I intentionally looked at or accessed pornography?

Interacting with pornography reduces human beings to mere objects for personal gratification, violating their inherent dignity and worth as children of God.

Have you allowed your thoughts about others to reduce them in your mind?

While not sexual in nature, this sin is still a form of lust in that it objectifies others who are created in God's image and possesses inherent dignity,

Have I engaged in actual or simulated sexual acts outside of marriage, including through devices or digital means?

While our sexual nature is a gift, using it to indulge in sensual pleasures is sinful as it's ordered for a particular purpose within marriage.

Have I had actual or simulated sexual acts outside of marriage, using my body in ways that stir up lust in myself or others?

While our sexual nature is a gift, using it to indulge in sensual pleasures is sinful as it's ordered for a particular purpose within marriage.

Have I engaged in actual or simulated acts of lust outside of marriage?

While our sexual nature is a gift, using it to indulge in sensual pleasures is sinful as it's ordered for a particular purpose within marriage.

Imprudence

Have I spent excessive time on meaningless distractions, such as excessive screen time or idle pursuits that prevent me from fulfilling my responsibilities?

Wasteful pursuits squander the precious time God has given us for meaningful spiritual growth and service to others.

Have I spent excessive time on meaningless distractions, potentially squandering the gift of time God has given me for more important pursuits?

Wasteful pursuits squander the precious time God has given us for meaningful spiritual growth and service to others.

Have I spent excessive time on frivolous pursuits, squandering the precious moments God has given me for meaningful spiritual growth and development?

Wasteful pursuits squander the precious time God has given us for meaningful spiritual growth and service to others.

Sensuality

Did I desire worldly experiences over growth in faith, especially when it came to my personal relationships and family dynamics?

Prioritizing worldly pleasures and experiences over spiritual development is considered sinful as it violates the First Commandment by placing temporal desires above one's eternal relationship with God.

Did I desire worldly pursuits over spiritual growth?

Prioritizing worldly pleasures and experiences over spiritual development is considered sinful as it violates the First Commandment by placing temporal desires above one's eternal relationship with God.

Did I let desires for worldly experiences, such as traveling or trying new things, take precedence over spiritual growth?

Prioritizing worldly pleasures and experiences over spiritual development is considered sinful as it violates the First Commandment by placing temporal desires above one's eternal relationship with God.

Did you intentionally use controlled substances to separate yourself from reality?

Using controlled substances deliberately impairs your God-given reason and free will, and an attempt to avoid dealing with life's challenges rather than facing them with God's help.

Have I used controlled substances, thus impairing my own self-control?

Using controlled substances deliberately impairs your God-given reason and free will, and an attempt to avoid dealing with life's challenges rather than facing them with God's help.

Effeminacy

Have I compromised my personal values by conforming to societal norms that may undermine my integrity and authenticity in decision-making?

Prioritizing human approval over standing firm in God's truth demonstrates both moral cowardice and places human opinion above divine authority.

Did I remain silent about Church teachings to avoid discomfort among my community?

While it is a hardship and uncomfortable, we should not display softtness, but rather be witnesses to the Truth.

False Witness

Have I led others to believe something that was not true?

Deceiving others is a form of bearing false witness, damages trust between people, and breaks down human relationships that should reflect God's truth and love.

Did I intentionally cause others to believe something that was not true by my words, actions, or presence?

Deceiving others is a form of bearing false witness, damages trust between people, and breaks down human relationships that should reflect God's truth and love.

Have I deliberately exaggerated, misrepresented the truth, or lied about others in conversations or interactions related to my family, parenting responsibilities, or personal relationships?

Bearing false witness puts one's desires over truth, justice, and love of God.

Have I deliberately exaggerated, misrepresented the truth, or lied about family members, friends, or others in my personal or online interactions?

Bearing false witness puts one's desires over truth, justice, and love of God.

Have I misrepresented others in formal or informal situations through my words?

Bearing false witness puts one's desires over truth, justice, and love of God.

Impenitence

Have I refused to acknowledge my wrongdoing, clinging instead to pride and a refusal to change?

Impenitence is sinful because refusing to repent is a prideful rejection of God's mercy.

Have I refused to accept my own guilt for clinging to a particular sin, even when confronted with the truth?

Impenitence is sinful because refusing to repent is a prideful rejection of God's mercy.

Have I refused to admit my wrongdoing, even when confronted with evidence of my own mistakes?

Impenitence is sinful because refusing to repent is a prideful rejection of God's mercy.

Envy

Have I secretly wished for others' blessings were to be taken away?

Envy leads us to have discontent for another's possessions so we won't feel the pain of comparison or perceived lack in our own lives.

Have I been envious of what others have and fixated on coveting their possessions?

This sin stems from ingratitude for one's own blessings and letting material desires control our hearts.

Incontinence

Did I lack self-control and speak to others with vulgarity or inappropriate language, especially when interacting with those I am trying to influence or guide?

This sin of incontinence shows a lack of self-restraint and violates the dignity of others.

Gluttony

Have I overindulged in eating or drinking beyond what is reasonable for my own needs?

This sin of gluttony demonstrates an inordinate attachment to worldly pleasures and rejects the call to temperance.

Did I overindulge in eating or drinking beyond what is necessary for my own needs and well-being, possibly to the point of harming my physical health?

This sin of gluttony demonstrates an inordinate attachment to worldly pleasures and rejects the call to temperance.

Did you overindulge in eating or drinking to an excessive degree, neglecting moderation in your daily habits?

This sin of gluttony demonstrates an inordinate attachment to worldly pleasures and rejects the call to temperance.

Prodigality

Have I been excessive in my spending on entertainment, thereby neglecting my financial responsibilities?

This sin violates the virtue of stewardship by recklessly risking resources God has entrusted to us, while potentially harming our ability to provide for family and those in need.

Gossip

Have I taken pleasure in speaking about others' private lives or faults, often through words shared with family members or close acquaintances?

Gossip violates human dignity and charity by harming others' reputations for our own entertainment or pride.

Have I shared the private affairs of family friends, acquaintances, or community members by words?

Gossip violates human dignity and charity by harming others' reputations for our own entertainment or pride.

Have I taken pleasure in sharing criticisms of family members, friends, or acquaintances through conversations, messages, or other forms of verbal communication?

Gossip violates human dignity and charity by harming others' reputations for our own entertainment or pride.

Impurity

Did I intentionally use certain practices, substances, or objects to prevent pregnancy?

This sin intentionally separates the unitive and procreative purposes of marriage and violates the proper use of one's sexuality.

Did you use practices, substances, or objects to prevent pregnancy?

This sin intentionally separates the unitive and procreative purposes of marriage and violates the proper use of one's sexuality.

Did I use certain practices, substances, or objects to prevent pregnancy, intentionally separating myself from God's plan for procreation?

This sin intentionally separates the unitive and procreative purposes of marriage and violates the proper use of one's sexuality.

Have I dressed immodestly in a way that respects my dignity?

Wearing attire that's exceptionally revealing or indecent violates chastity and beckons sins from others.

Have I dressed immodestly in a way that respects my dignity as a person?

Wearing attire that's exceptionally revealing or indecent violates chastity and beckons sins from others.

Have I dressed in a way that exposes my body for others' indulgence?

Wearing attire that's exceptionally revealing or indecent violates chastity and beckons sins from others.

Infidelity

Have I broken my marriage vows by engaging in any actions that could be considered infidelity through deeds?

Fidelity in marriage is viewed as a sacred covenant made before God - not just a contract between people, thus breaking vows is seen as a betrayal of both divine and human trust.

Fornication

Did I have non-procreative sex through any type of physical intimacy outside of marriage?

While the sexual natures are a gift, it's a sin to stray away from their ordering toward the unitive and procreative nature within marriage.

Did I engage in any form of non-marital, non-procreative intimacy?

While the sexual natures are a gift, it's a sin to stray away from their ordering toward the unitive and procreative nature within marriage.

Violence

Have I knowingly acted in ways that brought pain or suffering to someone else through my words or actions?

When we deliberately harm others, we attack their God-given dignity.

Have I acted in ways that brought pain or suffering to someone else through my words, actions, or behavior?

When we deliberately harm others, we attack their God-given dignity.

Adultery

Have I entertained inappropriate feelings towards someone else's spouse in situations where I am reconnecting with them for companionship and support?

This sin undermines the sacred bond of marriage by treating another person as an object of desire rather than respecting their dignity and commitment to their spouse.

Vainglory

Have you used your words to distance yourself from those in need, prioritizing your own interests over their well-being?

This is a public betrayal of Jesus' teaching that "whoever denies me before men, I will also deny before my Father who is in heaven," effectively choosing human respect over fidelity to God.

Apostasy

Have you ever, in your thoughts, rejected God's plan for your life and relationships?

Denying God's existence after having been baptized apostasy is one of the gravest sins possible because it is declaring the Author of Life and Source of all being to be non-existent, which directly contradicts both reason and divine revelation.

Have you ever rejected God's presence in your thoughts?

Denying God's existence after having been baptized apostasy is one of the gravest sins possible because it is declaring the Author of Life and Source of all being to be non-existent, which directly contradicts both reason and divine revelation.

Impiety

Did I fail to always show reverence for Most Blessed Sacrament in my daily life, especially when participating in worship services or spiritual activities?

This sin is in failing to show proper reverence demonstrates a lack of faith, respect, and proper worship due to God.

Did you fail to always show reverence for Most Blessed Sacrament in your daily life, when engaging with sacred spaces or participating in Eucharistic celebrations?

This sin is in failing to show proper reverence demonstrates a lack of faith, respect, and proper worship due to God.

Autonomy

Did I trust solely in my own abilities, rather than relying on God's guidance?

Pride is self-reliance repeats Lucifer's original sin of wanting independence from God and fails to acknowledge our complete dependence on divine grace.